We’re in an LDR and he cheated once: Can I still trust him?

From message sender “Kyrie” |

Hi, I’m from the Philippines and in a long distance relationship with my partner. May isa po kaming anak (we have one kid). Naloko na po niya ako 2 years ago at nahuli ko siya noon sa Facebook Messenger (He cheated 2 years ago through Facebook messenger). Can I still trust him?

He Said: Hi Kyrie, thanks for messaging us. Trust is a matter of perspective. Kahit na ano’ng situation niyo ng partner mo, nasa iyo pa rin ang desisyon kung siya’y pagkakatiwalaan mo pa din kahit na nasabi mo na niloko ka niya (the decision is yours to still trust him inspite of what happened before).

People change. Many, change for good, especially with guys. I am saying this from the perspective of a guy, ok? When we say we’re done, we are done. At one point, especially since you have a kid, we realize we need to focus on one thing – having a healthy and peaceful environment in which our children will grow up in. usually, it’s in the context of being a family.

Sa ngayon kasi, dahil live-in lang kayo, walang tunay na commitment akong nakikita. Hindi naman ibig sabihin nun na di siya dapat pagkatiwalaan. Wala lang akong matibay na pagkukunan ng commitment. Yun kasi ang mas importante kesa sa feelings lamang ang pagbabasihan ng love sa isa’t isa. Kung tunay na komited na siya sa yo, sa kasal ko lang talaga siya makikita bilang pangunahing basehan. Kung may basbas ng Diyos ang inyong samahan, mas matibay na sana ito, lalu na kung may takot at pagmamahal siya sa Diyos.

Long distance relationships
Long distance relationships

(For now, since you are just living in, I personally cannot see a solid commitment. This, to me is important more than feelings. If he is truly committed to you, he will marry you by now. If there is God’s blessing in a relationship, it will be stronger and prosper, especially if the guy loves God and fears Him. This is my personal opinion.)

Remember, in an LDR, the key is honesty towards each other. Make sure both of you are honest with your feelings, intentions and plans.

Sa ngayon, pagkatiwalaan mo muna siya. Pero dapat, nakapag usap na kayo ng masinsinan. Alamin mo ang kanyang tunay na plano para inyo. Ipagdasal mo siya at ang inyong relasyon. Nawa’y tumibay pa ito.

(For now, trust him. Just make sure you talk things out sincerely and honestly. Pray for Him and your relationship. May your relationship be stronger.).

God loves you!

She Said: Hello Kyrie. Trust is an important foundation in any relationship. You can’t go on if it’s gone. Only you can decide whether you can still trust him or not. I know a lot of guys who cheated on their partners, but they are still together because of their willingness to prove themselves that they are worthy of another chance. You’ll be the best judge. But, you can only do this if you can forgive him completely. You can never forget what happened, but accepting that it happened and your forgiveness will be the key to keep going. Pray for it. Trust, believe and surrender everything to God. He is faithful and He will not let us down. God bless ☺.

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