Loving the Unlovable

by Homer Nievera | shared on He Said, She Said |

Can you really truly love your enemies? That’s definitely a tough question.

In my more than 40 years of existence, I have made my own set of “unlovable” people. This group includes so called enemies. They are former friends, fair-weather friends, trying-to-be friends and need-to-be friends. Candidly, I cringe a bit everytime I think about these people. Many of them are gone from my life but there are some who are still around and one or two who are coming in.

Maybe these unlovable people are my own making. I labeled them as such. They belong to a breed of individuals who are not like me. We do not share the same values, beliefs, lifestyles, education, and faith. We simply see the world differently. If we have different perspectives, then we don’t see eye-to-eye. We are not the same. Thus, I despise them. Or should I?

I don’t love them but I know that somehow I should. Being a Catholic, God tells me to. In Matthew 5:44, it is said: “But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” Need I say more?

If these people whom I have labeled as unlovable have done me wrong, maybe I should forgive them first. Maybe I have to change my perspectives first. I have to see through their own eyes how they see me. I’m sure, there are things that I need to change for the better.

So how do I love the unlovable? I must change the way I see these people. Find anything good in them. Highlight these traits than the imperfections. Forgive them. Pray for them. Let God fully enter their hearts. For whatever inner change that happens will somehow resurface in their character. Their character will change their behavior. Not immediately but soon.

There are two or three people today that I don’t regard as my day-makers. I smile at them still with a heavy heart. One thing’s for sure. God has placed them in my life so as to add spice to my days. They are the people I need to pray for. They are the people who test my patience and make me a better Christian one day at a time.

There’s this quote I read somewhere that tells us to love our neighbors and  enemies as they may be one and the same. Amusing but true. If we intend to live in Heaven forever, we’d better learn to love unconditionally and forgive our enemies. If someday we meet them in Heaven, it will surely be living Hell.

Now that’s something to think about.

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