We just broke up: How do I pick up the pieces again?

From message sender “Jessie” |

Hi there. I need some advice. My boyfriend and we just broke up. We have been together for almost one and a half years. I really don’t know how to move forward with my life. I just can’t. I don’t know what to do anymore as I feel so broken. It’s hard to forget him everytime someone calls my name. I remember him because we have the same names. Please help.

He Said: Hi Jessie, thanks for your message. From the point of view of a guy (and probably a father), I’d advise you to close this chapter in your life. Pick yourself up, accept that you lost this round, learn from this (charged to experience), then move forward with your life. It’s unfair for you to hold on to something that wasn’t really there all along. Let’s face it. It will be hard to forget him. But in time, you will no longer remember the feeling. The secret is in going out and creating a lot of happier memories with other people. Sometimes, you only need more time with people who truly care for you. More happy memories to drown out the hurtful ones is the best cure for broken hurts. One day at a time. You will get over him. Pray daily to God to heal your brokeness. He will put the pieces back together again. Promise Niya yan. Ask and you shall receive. Trust, believe and surrender everything to Him. God has better plans for you. Just ask, and you shall receive, di ba? Pray for the right one. Show him you are stronger. Your are still young. Everything will turn out fine, ok? Focus on your studies, friends and family. You might have been missing a lot from them. God bless!

She Said: I think the best thing to do is to just move on. You might be missing out on many opportunities by focusing too much on your heartbreak. He is not worthy of your love and time. Masakit pero kailangan mong tanggapin (It hurts but you need to accept it). This will all pass. Sandali lang yan (It’s just a matter of time). What’s important is you didn’t waste precious time for nothing. Don’t mind other people’s expectations. Remember this is your life and future, so you really have to be sure about everything. Pray for guidance and direction. God will lead you to the right path. God bless ☺.

Reply from “Jessie”

Ok, thank you! 😊  You have helped me a lot. Thank you for helping me realize all those things you just said. You are such a big help. Again, thank you!


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