The Paradox of Self-Giving

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HSSSThe Paradox of Self-Giving | Have you noticed that when you are at a low point in your life, one of the simplest and most effective ways to find a boost of happiness is when you make another person happy? How can one explain this paradox of how giving joy to others brings you greater joy? It is indeed difficult to explain, but let’s consider some life-changing effects of self-giving:

A change in perspective about problems.

Focusing on what you can do for others will help you see your own challenges in a more objective light. Naturally, we tend to exaggerate our issues and believe them to be much worse than they actually are; but meeting someone who is having far larger problems soon changes this perspective. Seeing someone else in a more dire situation than yourself doesn’t make your problems go away, but it might help you get some perspective and realize that things could be much worse.

An abundance mindset is acquired.

Even if you can’t afford to make a monetary donation, spreading joy to others is a certain way to shift your focus from scarcity to abundance. If you dwell more on your problems and hardships, you will develop a heightened sense of scarcity. On the other hand, if you give to those in need, you are effectively claiming that you have “more than enough,” which will manifest itself as a focus on abundance in all spheres of your life.

The bliss of being able to bless others.

Feeling good about helping others is universal, regardless of whether you are giving money, time, or other resources. When you make giving a habit, no matter how little or large your efforts may be, you’ll experience a surge of satisfaction. The more you go out of your way to help other people, the more positive feelings you’ll have about yourself. In addition, giving anonymously will increase that positive emotion even more. You will keep on blessing others without expecting anything in return when you will realize that giving is its own benefit, and nothing can compare to the joy and fulfillment that comes with it.

It is possible for you to feel that you have nothing to contribute to other people at this time.  This is likely to be the case if you are having significant financial difficulties or if you are lacking in any other way. Nevertheless, contributing in any form will certainly make you feel better instantly, and help open your eyes that you have more resources available than you first thought.

Are you ahead in terms of years of experience? Find opportunities to share your wisdom with the young. Do you have any unique abilities or specialized training? Spend a few hours weekly volunteering your services to a cause you believe in. Can you make someone else smile and laugh? Offer some of your time for free in a local medical center or home for the elderly. There is an infinite number of ways to help others through your time, talent, or treasure.  They may cost almost nothing, but you gain more of yourself, which is everything.

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