HeSaidSheSaidPH.com | by Girlie | Overthinking Ka Ba? – Tara alamin natin!
Hi! I just wanna ask for some advice. I have a long time boyfriend, we’re almost 4 years. Sometimes nag ooverthink ako na baka may iba syang kausap or what. Nag break kami last 2019 then after 5 months naging kami ulit. Yes, naging toxic kami dati kaya nag break kami but nung bumalik na naging more mature na. But before, he always post some pictures of me or with me in social media. But after namin maging kami uli, he didn’t flex me on social media. We’re not even friends sa Ffacebook kasi feeling namin mas nakakatoxic yon ng relationship. He put my picture on his featured photos in his Facebook because I said so. But wala talagang post, or even story lang sa fb. Although sa Instagram meron, pero sobrang dalang. Hindi ko din hinahawakan phone nya ’cause we both need privacy. I don’t know his password in Facebook. Kaya kung ano ano na yung mga possibilities na naiisip ko. I know na he loves me. But d ko maiwasan na maisip na baka may nakakausap siyang iba.
Am I so immature para maging sensitive about this? Feeling ko kasi di sya proud for having me. Kaya on my thoughts, nahihiya syang ipost ako. Or baka nag ooverthink lang ako. I told him about this but nagalit sya. He said na hindi ako makuntento sa ginagawa nya para sa ‘kin. I just expect from him kasi ganon yung ginagawa ko sa kanya. What should I do?
Hi Girlie, guys are often on the safe side when it comes to more mature relationships. Once you set the rules, guys follow them almost to the letter. Para nga iwas-toxic. Especially, if they’re building for a long-term one, like focusing on career etc.
Give him some space and more trust. Once you have confirmed (!) he has broken that trust, then it’s bye-bye.
Wanna confirm your thoughts? Ask.
Tito Homer & Tita Jinky
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